28 Books like Out of the Shadows

Don't Call It Love

by Patrick J. Carnes • 1991

A recovery map for sex addiction: the trauma roots, the wrecked lives, and the spiritual rebuild.

4.18

243

🔥 Sex Addiction 👥 Codependency 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience ⚠️ Relapse Prevention

Don't Call It Love 98%

A recovery map for sex addiction: the trauma roots, the wrecked lives, and the spiritual rebuild.

by Patrick J. Carnes 1991

4.18

243 ratings

🔥 Sex Addiction 👥 Codependency 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience ⚠️ Relapse Prevention

In the Shadows of the Net

by Patrick J. Carnes • 2001

The Internet's secret architecture for addiction, and a two-part plan to dismantle its hold on you.

3.85

121

🌐 Internet Addiction ⚠️ Sexual Compulsion 🔞 Porn Addiction 🪜 12-Step Recovery 🛡️ Relapse Prevention

In the Shadows of the Net 98%

The Internet's secret architecture for addiction, and a two-part plan to dismantle its hold on you.

by Patrick J. Carnes 2001

3.85

121 ratings

🌐 Internet Addiction ⚠️ Sexual Compulsion 🔞 Porn Addiction 🪜 12-Step Recovery 🛡️ Relapse Prevention

Breaking the Cycle

by George Collins MA • 2011

Sex compulsion is not you. It is a subpersonality you can name, confront, and quiet.

4.19

470

🧠 Sex Addiction 🔄 Compulsive Behaviors 🪑 Parts Work 🧸 Early Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience

Breaking the Cycle 97%

Sex compulsion is not you. It is a subpersonality you can name, confront, and quiet.

by George Collins MA 2011

4.19

470 ratings

🧠 Sex Addiction 🔄 Compulsive Behaviors 🪑 Parts Work 🧸 Early Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience

Sex Addiction 101

by Robert Weiss • 2013

Sex addiction is not about sex. Recovery starts with a boundary plan, not with willpower.

4.08

117

🛡️ Sex Addiction Recovery 🧠 Behavioral Addictions 🔗 Trauma And Addiction 💔 Love Addiction 💥 Betrayal Trauma

Sex Addiction 101 97%

Sex addiction is not about sex. Recovery starts with a boundary plan, not with willpower.

by Robert Weiss 2013

4.08

117 ratings

🛡️ Sex Addiction Recovery 🧠 Behavioral Addictions 🔗 Trauma And Addiction 💔 Love Addiction 💥 Betrayal Trauma

The Porn Trap

by Wendy Maltz • 2008

Quitting porn is half the job. The rest: rebuilding a sexuality rooted in connection, not screens.

3.94

458

🖥️ Porn Addiction 🔄 Addiction Recovery 💞 Healthy Sexuality 🤝 Intimacy And Connection 🧠 Neurobiology Of Addiction

The Porn Trap 97%

Quitting porn is half the job. The rest: rebuilding a sexuality rooted in connection, not screens.

by Wendy Maltz 2008

3.94

458 ratings

🖥️ Porn Addiction 🔄 Addiction Recovery 💞 Healthy Sexuality 🤝 Intimacy And Connection 🧠 Neurobiology Of Addiction

Treating Pornography Addiction

by Kevin B. Skinner • 2005

Your porn habit feeds on loneliness and brain chemicals. A step-by-step plan for starving both.

4.14

239

🖥️ Pornography Addiction 🧠 Behavioral Addiction 🔬 Addiction Neuroscience 🛡️ Relapse Prevention 💭 Cognitive Behavioral

Treating Pornography Addiction 97%

Your porn habit feeds on loneliness and brain chemicals. A step-by-step plan for starving both.

by Kevin B. Skinner 2005

4.14

239 ratings

🖥️ Pornography Addiction 🧠 Behavioral Addiction 🔬 Addiction Neuroscience 🛡️ Relapse Prevention 💭 Cognitive Behavioral

The Porn Myth

by Matt Fradd • 2017

Porn rewires the brain like addiction, erodes real intimacy, and exploits its performers.

4.10

1k+

🧠 Pornography Addiction 🔗 Sexual Addiction 🧬 Neuroscience Of Addiction ✊ Anti-Porn Feminism ⚖️ Sexual Ethics

The Porn Myth 96%

Porn rewires the brain like addiction, erodes real intimacy, and exploits its performers.

by Matt Fradd 2017

4.10

1k+ ratings

🧠 Pornography Addiction 🔗 Sexual Addiction 🧬 Neuroscience Of Addiction ✊ Anti-Porn Feminism ⚖️ Sexual Ethics

Wired for Intimacy

by William M. Struthers • 2009

Porn exploits the male brain's wiring. The neuroscience of breaking free.

3.97

846

🧠 Neuroscience Of Addiction 🔗 Sexual Addiction Recovery 📖 Biblical Sexuality ✝️ Christian Psychology 🔄 Neuroplasticity

Wired for Intimacy 96%

Porn exploits the male brain's wiring. The neuroscience of breaking free.

by William M. Struthers 2009

3.97

846 ratings

🧠 Neuroscience Of Addiction 🔗 Sexual Addiction Recovery 📖 Biblical Sexuality ✝️ Christian Psychology 🔄 Neuroplasticity

Silicon Valley Porn Star

by Jason Portnoy • 2022

He built startups by day and a sex addiction by night. Then his wife called.

4.32

256

🖥️ Silicon Valley Culture 🔞 Pornography Addiction 📖 Addiction Memoirs 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience

Silicon Valley Porn Star 95%

He built startups by day and a sex addiction by night. Then his wife called.

by Jason Portnoy 2022

4.32

256 ratings

🖥️ Silicon Valley Culture 🔞 Pornography Addiction 📖 Addiction Memoirs 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🛡️ Shame Resilience

Your Brain on Porn

by Gary Wilson • 2014

Internet porn overloads ancient brain wiring. The result: sexual dysfunction in healthy young men.

4.21

8k+

🎬 Porn Addiction 💻 Internet Addiction 🧠 Brain Reward 💔 Sexual Dysfunction 🔄 Compulsive Behavior

Your Brain on Porn 95%

Internet porn overloads ancient brain wiring. The result: sexual dysfunction in healthy young men.

by Gary Wilson 2014

4.21

8k+ ratings

🎬 Porn Addiction 💻 Internet Addiction 🧠 Brain Reward 💔 Sexual Dysfunction 🔄 Compulsive Behavior

Unwanted

by Jay Stringer • 2018

A therapist's survey found one thing that multiplies pornography use by 300. It isn't lust.

4.60

3k+

🕊️ Christian Counseling 🔗 Sex Addiction Recovery 💔 Shame And Trauma 🏠 Family Of Origin Work ⛓️ Purity Culture Critique

Unwanted 95%

A therapist's survey found one thing that multiplies pornography use by 300. It isn't lust.

by Jay Stringer 2018

4.60

3k+ ratings

🕊️ Christian Counseling 🔗 Sex Addiction Recovery 💔 Shame And Trauma 🏠 Family Of Origin Work ⛓️ Purity Culture Critique

How to Quit Porn

by Brett McKay • 2015

Porn is a brain habit you can break. Step-by-step plans that work when willpower doesn't.

4.24

156

🧠 Porn Recovery ❤️ Sexual Health 🔄 Habit Change 🔁 Habit Loops 🧪 Dopamine

How to Quit Porn 95%

Porn is a brain habit you can break. Step-by-step plans that work when willpower doesn't.

by Brett McKay 2015

4.24

156 ratings

🧠 Porn Recovery ❤️ Sexual Health 🔄 Habit Change 🔁 Habit Loops 🧪 Dopamine

Facing Codependence

by Pia Mellody • 1989

Codependence: a childhood-born disease of control, shame, and blurred boundaries that can be healed.

4.07

3k+

🎭 Codependency 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🔦 Shame Healing 🚧 Boundary Setting 🌟 Self-Esteem

Facing Codependence 95%

Codependence: a childhood-born disease of control, shame, and blurred boundaries that can be healed.

by Pia Mellody 1989

4.07

3k+ ratings

🎭 Codependency 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🔦 Shame Healing 🚧 Boundary Setting 🌟 Self-Esteem

Addictive Thinking

by Abraham J. Twerski • 1990

Addiction hijacks thinking itself: why smart people cannot see their own self-destruction.

4.17

957

🧠 Addiction Psychology 🪞 Cognitive Distortions 🎭 Self-Deception 💔 Shame And Addiction 🌊 Emotional Regulation

Addictive Thinking 95%

Addiction hijacks thinking itself: why smart people cannot see their own self-destruction.

by Abraham J. Twerski 1990

4.17

957 ratings

🧠 Addiction Psychology 🪞 Cognitive Distortions 🎭 Self-Deception 💔 Shame And Addiction 🌊 Emotional Regulation

Bradshaw On

by John Bradshaw • 1985

Your family taught you to feel fundamentally wrong. The path to recover the self you buried.

4.12

1k+

🏠 Family Systems 🔗 Co-Dependency 🪜 Twelve-Step Recovery 👶 Inner Child Work 💔 Childhood Trauma

Bradshaw On 95%

Your family taught you to feel fundamentally wrong. The path to recover the self you buried.

by John Bradshaw 1985

4.12

1k+ ratings

🏠 Family Systems 🔗 Co-Dependency 🪜 Twelve-Step Recovery 👶 Inner Child Work 💔 Childhood Trauma

A Womans Way Through The Twelve Steps

by Stephanie S. Covington • 1994

The Twelve Steps, reimagined through women's experience of trauma, relationships, and identity.

4.45

643

🪜 Twelve Step Recovery 👩 Female Addiction Issues 🩹 Addiction And Trauma 🕊️ Spiritual Recovery 🧘 Emotional Sobriety

A Womans Way Through The Twelve Steps Summary

A Womans Way Through The Twelve Steps 95%

The Twelve Steps, reimagined through women's experience of trauma, relationships, and identity.

by Stephanie S. Covington 1994

4.45

643 ratings

🪜 Twelve Step Recovery 👩 Female Addiction Issues 🩹 Addiction And Trauma 🕊️ Spiritual Recovery 🧘 Emotional Sobriety

Healing the Shame That Binds You

by John Bradshaw • 1988

When shame becomes identity, it poisons everything. The exit begins with telling someone.

4.09

12k+

🧒 Childhood Trauma 🗣️ Inner Critic 🔄 Addiction Recovery 💗 Self-Compassion 🔗 Codependency

Healing the Shame That Binds You Summary

Healing the Shame That Binds You 95%

When shame becomes identity, it poisons everything. The exit begins with telling someone.

by John Bradshaw 1988

4.09

12k+ ratings

🧒 Childhood Trauma 🗣️ Inner Critic 🔄 Addiction Recovery 💗 Self-Compassion 🔗 Codependency

The Matrix

by Joshua Clover • 2007

Obsessive love is an addiction. The cure isn't a better partner; it's turning that devotion inward.

4.12

1k+

🔗 Codependency Recovery 💔 Relationship Addiction 🧒 Childhood Trauma 👶 Inner Child Work 🤲 Twelve Step Programs

The Matrix 95%

Obsessive love is an addiction. The cure isn't a better partner; it's turning that devotion inward.

by Joshua Clover 2007

4.12

1k+ ratings

🔗 Codependency Recovery 💔 Relationship Addiction 🧒 Childhood Trauma 👶 Inner Child Work 🤲 Twelve Step Programs

Beyond Codependency

by Melody Beattie • 1989

Codependency doesn't end when you first set a boundary. Here's what happens after.

4.22

4k+

🌀 Codependency Recovery 🏠 Family Of Origin Work 🧱 Healthy Boundaries 💕 Self-Compassion Practices 🔄 Breaking Cycles

Beyond Codependency 95%

Codependency doesn't end when you first set a boundary. Here's what happens after.

by Melody Beattie 1989

4.22

4k+ ratings

🌀 Codependency Recovery 🏠 Family Of Origin Work 🧱 Healthy Boundaries 💕 Self-Compassion Practices 🔄 Breaking Cycles

It Works How and Why

by Narcotic Anonymous • 1993

The blueprint under the steps: spiritual principles that dismantle addiction and reconstruct a life.

4.54

199

🩹 Addiction Recovery 📝 Twelve Step Programs 🙏 Spiritual Recovery 🤲 Recovery Fellowships 🔍 Self-Examination

It Works How and Why 94%

The blueprint under the steps: spiritual principles that dismantle addiction and reconstruct a life.

by Narcotic Anonymous 1993

4.54

199 ratings

🩹 Addiction Recovery 📝 Twelve Step Programs 🙏 Spiritual Recovery 🤲 Recovery Fellowships 🔍 Self-Examination

Emotional Sobriety

by Tian Dayton • 2007

The emotional regulation skills that keep you stopped, long after the substance is gone.

4.26

486

🧠 Trauma Recovery 💗 Emotional Regulation 🔄 Addiction Recovery 🪢 Codependency Recovery 🔗 Attachment Theory

Emotional Sobriety 94%

The emotional regulation skills that keep you stopped, long after the substance is gone.

by Tian Dayton 2007

4.26

486 ratings

🧠 Trauma Recovery 💗 Emotional Regulation 🔄 Addiction Recovery 🪢 Codependency Recovery 🔗 Attachment Theory

The Betrayal Bond

by Patrick J. Carnes • 1997

Destructive relationships create bonds as powerful as addiction. The proven path to breaking free.

4.33

1k+

🚫 Toxic Relationships 🩹 Trauma Recovery 🔗 Relationship Addiction 🔄 Cycle Of Abuse 🧱 Boundary Setting

The Betrayal Bond 94%

Destructive relationships create bonds as powerful as addiction. The proven path to breaking free.

by Patrick J. Carnes 1997

4.33

1k+ ratings

🚫 Toxic Relationships 🩹 Trauma Recovery 🔗 Relationship Addiction 🔄 Cycle Of Abuse 🧱 Boundary Setting

The New Codependency

by Melody Beattie • 2008

Vanishing into other people is not love. The updated guide for boundaries that keep you here.

3.92

2k+

🧩 Codependency 🚧 Boundary Setting 💔 Family Dysfunction 🎭 Emotional Repression 🍃 Letting Go

The New Codependency 94%

Vanishing into other people is not love. The updated guide for boundaries that keep you here.

by Melody Beattie 2008

3.92

2k+ ratings

🧩 Codependency 🚧 Boundary Setting 💔 Family Dysfunction 🎭 Emotional Repression 🍃 Letting Go

Conquering Shame and Codependency

by Darlene Lancer • 2014

Shame drives codependency. Eight steps to disarm the inner critic and reclaim the self you lost.

4.22

422

🔗 Codependency Recovery 🩹 Shame Healing 🧠 Inner Critic Work 💬 Vulnerability Practice 🧸 Childhood Trauma

Conquering Shame and Codependency Summary

Conquering Shame and Codependency 94%

Shame drives codependency. Eight steps to disarm the inner critic and reclaim the self you lost.

by Darlene Lancer 2014

4.22

422 ratings

🔗 Codependency Recovery 🩹 Shame Healing 🧠 Inner Critic Work 💬 Vulnerability Practice 🧸 Childhood Trauma

Woman Who Love Too Much

by Robin Norwood

It feels like love but works like an addiction, and the needle was loaded in childhood.

4.03

🪢 Codependency 🖤 Obsessive Love 🏚️ Family Dysfunction 🦸 Savior Complex 🧩 Childhood Trauma

Woman Who Love Too Much 94%

It feels like love but works like an addiction, and the needle was loaded in childhood.

by Robin Norwood

4.03

78 ratings

🪢 Codependency 🖤 Obsessive Love 🏚️ Family Dysfunction 🦸 Savior Complex 🧩 Childhood Trauma

The Truth

by Neil Strauss • 2015

He was a master of seduction. His real problem: he couldn't let anyone get close.

4.11

8k+

🧩 Non-Monogamy 🔗 Sex Addiction 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🔒 Attachment Theory 🧠 Emotional Intelligence

The Truth 94%

He was a master of seduction. His real problem: he couldn't let anyone get close.

by Neil Strauss 2015

4.11

8k+ ratings

🧩 Non-Monogamy 🔗 Sex Addiction 🧸 Childhood Trauma 🔒 Attachment Theory 🧠 Emotional Intelligence

Quit Porn and Get Rich

by Martin Prescott • 2018

The neuroscience of why porn kills ambition, and a plan to get your drive back.

3.76

168

🔒 Porn Addiction Recovery 🧪 Dopamine Detox 💪 Self-Control Training 👤 Men's Self-Improvement 🔨 Habit Breaking

Quit Porn and Get Rich 94%

The neuroscience of why porn kills ambition, and a plan to get your drive back.

by Martin Prescott 2018

3.76

168 ratings

🔒 Porn Addiction Recovery 🧪 Dopamine Detox 💪 Self-Control Training 👤 Men's Self-Improvement 🔨 Habit Breaking

12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery

by Allen Berger • 2008

Recovery gets derailed by twelve predictable patterns. Here is how to spot and short-circuit them.

4.12

246

🧪 Addiction Recovery 🛑 Relapse Prevention 🧘 Emotional Sobriety 🙏 Twelve-Step Principles ✨ Recovery Spirituality

12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery Summary

12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery 94%

Recovery gets derailed by twelve predictable patterns. Here is how to spot and short-circuit them.

by Allen Berger 2008

4.12

246 ratings

🧪 Addiction Recovery 🛑 Relapse Prevention 🧘 Emotional Sobriety 🙏 Twelve-Step Principles ✨ Recovery Spirituality

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