David Shade's manual

1. The Mind is the Ultimate Erotic Zone

I knew that a woman's orgasm is very cerebral. Her mind is the most important factor.

Cerebral pleasure. The author emphasizes that a woman's mind is the most crucial element in her orgasm. Unlike physical stimulation alone, engaging her imagination and mental state can unlock unprecedented levels of pleasure. This understanding shifts the focus from mere technique to psychological mastery, recognizing that true fulfillment originates internally.

Imagination's power. The "Thinkoff" technique demonstrates this, where a woman achieved orgasm purely through mental focus and the belief that her hands were tied behind her head during phone sex. This highlights how the mind can override physical limitations and create intense sensations. The author's early experiments proved that if a woman believes it, her body feels it, making the brain the primary erogenous zone.

Reality is malleable. Hypnosis, or even strong suggestion, can alter a woman's perceived reality, making "absolutely anything" possible. By tapping into her subconscious, the author could induce orgasms without any physical touch, such as making a woman believe she had a penis and "jack off." This principle forms the foundation for many advanced techniques, proving that the mind is the ultimate gateway to pleasure.

2. Hypnosis: The Key to Unlocking New Realities

I knew that with hypnosis, I could make anything her reality. Absolutely Anything...

Altering perception. Hypnosis is presented as a powerful tool to create new realities for a woman, allowing her to experience sensations and scenarios that are otherwise impossible or unimaginable. This goes beyond mere suggestion, as the subject genuinely believes the altered reality, leading to profound emotional and physical responses. The author's initial experiments, like making his girlfriend believe she was a man with a penis, demonstrated this immediate and profound shift in perception.

Deepening experiences. By suspending the "critical factor" of the conscious mind, hypnosis allows suggestions to bypass skepticism and integrate directly into the subconscious. This enables experiences like becoming a "high paid hooker" or a "virgin again," where the woman fully embodies the role and its associated feelings, leading to intensely exciting and memorable encounters. The depth of trance dictates the vividness and believability of these altered realities.

Lasting impact. Once a reality is established under hypnosis, it can often be re-accessed by the woman even when fully conscious. This means that skills or sensations learned in trance, such as having an orgasm without physical stimulation, can be replicated later. The subconscious mind, once familiar with a concept, is adept at making it "real," ignoring self-limiting beliefs and opening new avenues for pleasure.

3. Mastering Advanced Physical Pleasure Points

The deep spot has one important benefit over the clitoris. The problem with the clitoris is that after a few seconds of an orgasm, it becomes so painfully sensitive that it cannot be further stimulated. The deep spot does not have this problem.

Beyond the G-spot. The author introduces the "deep spot" (cavity of the cervix/anterior fornix) as a powerful, often overlooked, area for inducing intense vaginal orgasms. Unlike the clitoris, which can become overstimulated, the deep spot allows for sustained pleasure and can lead to a woman's first vaginal orgasm. Techniques involve firm, "come hither" stroking, especially along the back wall.

Clitoral mastery. While the deep spot is emphasized, the "welcomed method" for direct clitoral stimulation is also highlighted. This technique involves precise, firm rubbing of the naked clitoral tip at the one o'clock position, often with ample lubrication. It aims to overcome the common belief that direct clitoral touch is "too much," instead transforming it into a source of continuous, intense pleasure.

Diverse stimulation. The manual explores various other physical techniques to enhance arousal and orgasm. These include:

• Taoist Thrusting: A rhythmic penetration pattern (9 short, 1 long; 8 short, 2 long, etc.) for heightened sensation.
• Body of the Clitoris: Stimulating the extended, V-shaped body of the clitoris under the labia for a blend of clitoral and vaginal pleasure.
• Anal Beads: Used to intensify orgasms by pulling them out during climax.
• Cunnilingus: Sucking the clitoris into the lips and humming for wild arousal.
• "Nip it in the bud" technique: Aggressively manipulating the clitoral hood for intense, "jack off" like sensations.

These methods provide a diverse toolkit for maximizing physical pleasure, often leading to new types of orgasms.

4. Cultivating Emotional & Taboo Arousal

Mark has said that one of the best ways to become closer to a woman is to share a taboo. So very true.

Emotional stimulation. The author stresses that driving a woman "crazy sexually" often requires stimulating her emotionally. This involves understanding her desires, even unspoken ones, and creating scenarios that tap into her deeper psychological needs for excitement and novelty. Emotional arousal is presented as a prerequisite for truly powerful sexual experiences.

Embracing taboos. Sharing a taboo is a powerful way to deepen intimacy and excitement. This can range from relatively tame acts like attending a fetish party or public displays of affection, to more intense scenarios like spanking or even the "rape fantasy." The key is that the woman feels safe and trusts her partner completely, allowing her to explore forbidden desires without actual danger or judgment.

Fantasy into reality. Women's fantasies, whether conscious or subconscious, are rich sources of arousal. The author details how to elicit these fantasies and then bring them to life, either through vivid narration (e.g., the "dirty" talk during spanking) or actual enactment (e.g., the "rape fantasy" with restraints). This process makes the fantasy "real" for her, leading to incredibly powerful and memorable orgasms, often without direct genital stimulation.

5. Embodying the "Master" Mindset

Don't TRY to be the man. Don't ACT like the man. Instead, BE The Man.

Inner power. Being "The Man" is not about machismo or being an "alpha male" in a superficial sense, but about embodying deep personal power that comes from within. This involves being honest with oneself, having self-respect, and maintaining control of one's own emotional state. This inner congruence is what truly commands a woman's respect and attraction.

Dominance with care. A "dominant man" is one who is comfortable being in charge, commanding, and in control, but without being domineering or controlling. He is tough yet sweet, confident yet not arrogant, and deeply sensitive to her feelings while still leading. This rare dichotomy allows a woman to feel protected and safe enough to fully surrender, knowing her desires and well-being are prioritized.

Authentic appreciation. A true "Master" genuinely loves and appreciates women, reveling in their sexiness and femininity. He makes her feel like the "sexiest woman in the world" not through empty compliments, but through authentic admiration and actions that demonstrate his belief in her potential for pleasure. This genuine appreciation fosters a deep connection and encourages her to be her most sexual self.

6. Sequential Training for Unprecedented Responsiveness

Each night you sequentially train her for greater responsiveness and higher levels of pleasure.

Incremental progress. Expanding a woman's envelope of sexuality is a step-by-step process, building on previous successes. Each new experience or technique is introduced after the woman has demonstrated responsiveness and comfort with the preceding one. This systematic approach ensures she feels safe, trusts the process, and is continuously rewarded for her openness.

Building responsiveness. The core of this training is to make the woman increasingly responsive to the man's commands and suggestions. This is achieved by consistently rewarding desired behaviors (e.g., vocalizing pleasure, following instructions) and withholding rewards for undesirable ones. The goal is for her to understand that her "true fulfillment lies in her being completely responsive" to him.

A structured journey. The author outlines a sequential training program:

• Night 1: Introduce the deep spot, anchor orgasm to "Come Now!"
• Night 2: Train her to only come when told, using the welcomed method.
• Night 3: Hypnotize her to instantly orgasm on command.
• Night 4: Train her to come for as long as commanded, using "Thinkoff."
• Night 5: Achieve a one-hour orgasm using combined techniques and hypnosis.
• Subsequent nights: Introduce anal sex, nipple orgasms, the 10-count to orgasm, oral sex orgasms, squirting, and chakra orgasms.

This structured progression aims to unlock new levels of pleasure and responsiveness, making her an "orgasm machine."

7. Embracing Dichotomy and Vulnerability

A woman wants to be known by most of the people in her life as being innocent. But with her man, she wants to be naughty.

The dual nature. Women often desire a dichotomy in their lives: proper and professional by day, but sexually uninhibited and "naughty" by night. This isn't about being a "slut," but about expressing a hidden, wilder side within a safe and trusting relationship. The man who can embrace and facilitate this duality allows her to feel "all the woman she can be."

Surrender and control. A woman's deepest fulfillment often lies in the paradox of surrendering control to her man while still feeling completely safe and respected. This vulnerability, when met with a man's strength and care, creates intense emotional and sexual excitement. The author demonstrates this by physically restraining his partner, then verbally emphasizing her helplessness and his control, leading to powerful orgasms.

Anticipation as arousal. Delaying gratification and building anticipation are crucial elements in heightening pleasure. By teasing, withholding, and creating suspense (e.g., tying her up and then working on a laptop), the author intensifies her desire and makes the eventual release even more explosive. This "scary exciting" feeling, where she doesn't know what will happen next but trusts her partner, amplifies her arousal.

8. Beyond Orgasm: Exploring Spiritual & Extended Pleasure

The orgasm was completely different. It was the next step beyond an orgasm. The pleasure was more intense.

Hypnocharged Tantra. The author explores Tantra not as a complex ritual, but as a means to achieve extended, non-ejaculatory orgasms through mutual self-induction, enhanced by hypnosis. The goal is to allow sexual pleasure to travel throughout the entire body and mind, maintaining a continuous state of ecstasy without the need for climax. This "total peace and continual ecstasy" can last for extended periods.

Chakra-guided pleasure. By understanding and stimulating the seven chakras, the author guides a woman's orgasm beyond physical sensation into spiritual realms. Starting with the root chakra's sexual energy, the pleasure is guided upwards through each chakra, transforming from purely sexual to deeply emotional, then intellectual, and finally, spiritual. This culminates in a "crown chakra" orgasm, described as feeling "weightless in space," "beyond pleasure," and a "mystical oneness with everyone and everything."

The "beyond orgasm" state. This advanced level of pleasure transcends typical physical climax. The woman experiences an orgasm that is "more than an orgasm," where her "emotions and your feelings are experiencing the orgasm without any physical interference." This release of sexual energy into the universe is described as a "great thing," offering a profound sense of freedom and spiritual fulfillment.

9. Unlocking Female Ejaculation

My girlfriend said that being able to squirt provides "By Far" the best orgasms of her life.

Natural ability. The author asserts that every physically healthy woman has the natural ability to ejaculate, as they all possess Skene's glands (homologous to the male prostate). Many women unknowingly suppress this ability because they mistake the pre-orgasmic urge to ejaculate for the need to urinate, leading them to "hold back."

Training for release. The process of teaching a woman to squirt involves:

• Identifying the urge: Helping her recognize the "urge to pee" as the signal for ejaculation.
• Encouraging release: Instructing her to "push it out" rather than hold back, assuring her it's not urine.
• Targeted stimulation: While the G-spot can act as a "turbo charger," the author found the deep spot and welcomed clitoral method more effective for initiating ejaculation.
• Hypnotic suggestion: Using hypnosis to reinforce the idea that she will welcome the feeling and push it out without embarrassment.

Enhanced orgasms. Female ejaculation is described as providing "By Far" the best and quickest orgasms for the woman, often resulting in significant fluid release. It also leads to a feeling of increased sexual power and confidence, as the woman realizes she can achieve a deeper, more intense form of pleasure.

10. Navigating and Enhancing Threesomes

I have to admit, there is something magical about fucking a woman up the ass doggy style while your girlfriend cheers you on.

Shared experience. Threesomes are presented as a way to deepen the bond between the primary couple, rather than a distraction. The author emphasizes that the other woman is invited to join their shared experience, not to compete for the man's emotional attachment. This framework helps mitigate jealousy and ensures the primary relationship remains central.

Strategic management. Successful threesomes require careful planning and management. The author details:

• Pre-agreement: Ensuring the third party understands the boundaries (e.g., no emotional attachment to the man).
• Rapport building: Facilitating connection between the two women, as bisexual women can be initially shy with each other.
• Patience: Allowing the women to set the pace and initiate sexual contact with each other first.
• Prioritizing the primary partner: Always engaging with the primary girlfriend first, and including her in the interaction with the third party.

Maximizing pleasure. The goal is for both women to "totally enjoy themselves," with the man acting as the "Three Ring Circus' Master." This involves:

• Encouraging the women to stimulate each other.
• Using hypnotic commands to enhance their orgasms.
• Engaging the primary girlfriend in the act with the third woman (e.g., having her cheer on or assist during sex with the third party).
• Ensuring safety and comfort (e.g., condoms, hygiene).

This approach transforms a potentially complex scenario into a "beautiful expression of sensuality and raw sexuality."

11. The Foundation: Respect, Trust, and Sincerity

Only when a woman has respect for her man, can she become all the woman she can be.

Respect as bedrock. The author unequivocally states that a woman's respect for her man is the most crucial element for a fulfilling relationship and for her to fully explore her sexuality. Without it, she cannot truly surrender, be responsive, or engage in deeper fantasies. This respect is earned through the man's self-respect, integrity, and consistent actions.

Earning trust. Trust is built through transparency, acceptance, and vulnerability. The man must demonstrate trust in her, accept her completely without judgment, and be willing to share his own secrets. When she feels safe and accepted, she will reciprocate by sharing her deepest desires and vulnerabilities, deepening the emotional bond and opening the door to new experiences.

Sincerity and congruence. The "Master" is genuine and congruent in his words and actions. He doesn't "play a fake role" or "tease low self-esteem women." Instead, he embodies the man he desires to be, aligning his beliefs with his behaviors. This sincerity acts as a powerful "trance induction," drawing women to him and making his suggestions believable, as they sense his authentic passion and desire to please.

Last updated: July 31, 2025